It might seem like an impossible job to get your ex back. An ex is an ex because it didn’t work out between the two of you. After a while apart you realize that you still love them and you want to get him or her back. The tricky question is, does your ex still miss you enough to want you back as well? We’ll show you the quickest way on how to get your ex back.
Before you make your decision on trying to get him or her back, you should make a checklist to help you think about ways on how to proceed. You should think about what was working in your relationship when you both felt great, what was the reason for breaking up and last, but not least, what will you do differently this time?
Whoever did the “dumping” is usually going to cope better with the breakup. The person who was dumped is often not in such a right place. Before you decide to try to get your ex back, you should get a better understanding if why you keep thinking of your ex to get a better understanding if that is a good idea. If you want to get your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back, you need to start focusing on yourself and sort out why they broke up with you or why you broke up with them. It takes two people to make a great relationship, so don’t behave as if you did nothing wrong, because this could not be further from the truth. If you stay in denial about your ex and your relationship together, you might get them back, but it will not last very long.
7 Simple tips on how to get your ex back
If you’re ready, follow these simple steps to get your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back as fast as possible.
Understand why you broke up in the first place
Regarding character and emotions, look in the mirror. Were you too jealous, too moody, too demanding, too nagging or did you not give them enough space? Whatever it was, when you see him/her again, they need to look at what’s changed and that you are different. However, the real purpose in change is to better yourself and not switch to better “fit” your ex.
Change old habits and choose a different approach
If it looks like your ex is coming around and perhaps mentions that maybe you two should give it another try, be patient. You have been seeing each other a couple of times, and it seems like it is working. Wait just a minute – people that get back together tend to go back to old habits because neither of you made any changes to your lives. To win your ex back, remember to keep up with the changes that you have made to make him or her interested in you all over again. If you feel the need to apologize to your girl, be sure to do it correctly. We’ve written a guide on the best way to apologize to a girl that you might be interested in reading first.
Every relationship is different and may require different approaches. The changes that you made should also be reflected in your ex. After all, you’re not married, so they could easily call your relationship quits again if they feel like it’s not working. That’s why communication is essential. Talk to each other in a relaxing and calming atmosphere and not with hostility or anger.
Focus on yourself first
If your ex was the one who broke up with you, don’t make contact right away. Once you recover and get your confidence and self-esteem back, you’ll be in a better position to “negotiate” a reunion. Cut off all contact and focus on your life and what you need to make yourself happy.
You’ll need to spend some time learning how to love yourself again. You also know that if you have no love for yourself, you’ll have no business asking someone for their love. Work on loving yourself and then go after him or her with the intention of bringing you and your ex back together.
Do not unfriend your ex on social media
In modern society, we have to address the Facebook issues. Another secret on how to get them back is to not unfriend your ex, but also not stalk them on social media.
Don’t become a cyber stalker since it will definitely cause confusion and anger, especially with the comments that other people post on your ex-girlfriend’s of ex-boyfriend’s wall. Did you know that 33% of the population use Facebook to keep track of their former partners? If you’re on Facebook to spy, you are only exposing yourself to information that will intensify your heartbreak. This is especially true if you run across information about new friendships that they make or if they have shared some negative information about you or your relationship together.
Change your lifestyle and appearance
Men and women are turned on by what they see. Perhaps after a month or two of not seeing each other, you can blow your ex away by making yourself look sexy and amazing. This may sound shallow, but it works! This is a crucial step toward getting “your foot in the door” by throwing him or her a sexy hook, then having them bite. Re-style your hair, go to the nearest retail cosmetic counter and have them give you a makeover.
If you have an ex-boyfriend, you can go and buy an above the knee sensual dress. His desire for you will return quickly, guaranteed! Also, the change in appearance is not to let him back into your life right away. Yes, you really miss him and you really want to get him back, but don’t go for it right away. Let him pine and drool over how good you look.
You both still need some time to appreciate each other, which means you shouldn’t call him constantly after you meet. Instead, take your time and let him think about you and desire you all over again.
Dress to impress
What happens when you have completed all of the above tips and your ex seems very interested and maybe invites you over to his or her place? This will definitely put pressure on you, but this is what you wanted, right? Yes – So let’s do it right!
For you girls, if you really want to impress him, start by reading our guide on how to be the perfect girlfriend. Those tips will definitely come in handy!
Your whole aura (put on some good perfume) and energy need to keep them excited so that the great old memories come back to them. Remember the things that you used to do, the sexual secrets that you used to talk about are now a part of your arsenal, and you are more than willing to perform. Think about what you could do to show him why they should not have left you and this will double your chances of getting them back.
Don’t take anything for granted
Your goal should be about just getting your ex back, but that you want them to stay this time. Ex-couples often have sex again once or twice, but their relationship still doesn’t work out. Don’t take anything for granted. Make sure that they experience a lovemaking night that they want to continue even when you both wake up in the morning.
If you both wake up with a smile around your faces, not thinking about anything negative about your relationship and don’t talk about the past, it’s a good sign. Just talk to them and ask what is going on in their life, how they’re doing and perhaps remind them of something special that only you know about them and that you can both laugh about it.
At this stage, you should check for signs of him not being interested to not risk wasting more time on something that will never happen.
If you take the advice above, you might not need to be the one that makes contact. Your ex will be curious about the fact they haven’t heard a peep from you and they might call you. This is your chance, invite them for a coffee and have a great catch-up chat.
Remember to keep the conversation light and breezy, not discuss heavy topics and absolutely no relationship talk! Change the subject immediately if the topic of your conversation goes down the road of too personal. By the second or third coffee or lunch date, you should tell them how you feel. Delaying this any further is a waste of time, and you want answers so you can move forward with them or concentrate on your new life without them.
4 Important things to consider before you date your ex
Should you really date your ex? You most likely invested a lot of time and energy into your relationship before you broke up. People have different opinions and mixed feelings about dating an ex.
There are a few things you should consider before you decide to date you previous girlfriend or boyfriend. Below are the eight most important things to consider before you decide what to do.
Your relationship probably won’t be the same
When you first started going out, you had a certain spark or fire in your relationship that brought you two together. Dating an ex again will most likely not be the same as before. Pain can really affect people in different ways.
When you break up with your ex, it causes a lot of pain and bad feelings towards each other. Although you may have reconciled and you’re considering going out with each other again, your relationship may never be the same as you remembered it. During your relationship at some point, you probably made a promise never to hurt your ex and that you’d take care of them. When you broke up, things changed. It is important to take into consideration that the spark and fire that used to be there, may have died since.
Previous mistakes are hard to fix
You would be wise to take into consideration that the past may come back to haunt you. For instance, if you cheated on your ex, there will always be some type of trust issue between you that’s really difficult to change. The previous mistakes that you’ve made in the past will add tension between you two.
Friends and family might not support your decision
Although you may have rekindled the love that you have for your ex, your family and friends might not support you. It’s not that they don’t want you to be happy, but rather that they just don’t want you to get hurt again. Your friends and family saw what you went through during your breakup, and they don’t want the same thing to happen again.
Before you decide if you should move forward with your plans, you should consider what your family and friends might think. It would just make it harder on the both of you if you don’t have the support from the ones closest to you.
You will always be suspicious
Starting your relationship over can create a lot of doubts in your mind. Depending on the reason why you broke up, you could have built “a wall” between yourself and your ex which can be hard to tear down. This is normal for all relationships, but it’s more common when you have had a bad breakup. It is not that you don’t trust your ex, it’s just that you don’t want the same thing to happen all over again.
If you were the one breaking up, you are going to have to be very clear that you made a mistake and that you still have feelings for your ex. They will either agree to work things out or not. If you get a simple “no” at this point, don’t try to emotionally blackmail him or her, or manipulate them. This is dishonest and you will lose in the end for sure! If you didn’t get a no, you’re on your way to get your ex back in a relationship that hopefully works out better than the last time.
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