The Real Reasons Why You Still Thinking About Your Ex And What To Do

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Moving on is one of the hardest things to do after ending a relationship. Some of us may be asking “why do I think about my ex?” There are many answers to that question. You may have spent a lot of sleepless nights thinking about your ex and what happened with the relationship. That is completely normal in the beginning because it is still fresh in your mind. Relationships can be complicated and painful but in order to move on you have to understand the reasons why you can’t stop thinking about your ex. There are eight reasons as to why your partner is constantly on your mind after a breakup but first, you should know what happens after a breakup.

What Happens After A Breakup?

When you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, there are a lot of emotions that you may be feeling. Here is a list of something that happens after a break up:

You Will Feel Depressed

You will feel really depressed after a breakup which is a natural emotion when you break up with your ex. You will constantly be faced with thoughts and memories of the times that you spend together which can bring your mood down. People looking in from the outside may think that you are just being dramatic but your depression can get very serious. The best thing to do is to do something that makes you feel good or something that you love to do. Your depression after a breakup will not last forever.

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Your Appetite Changes

When I broke up with my first boyfriend, I remember that I did not eat anything. Every time I took a bite of food, it was as if I could not taste anything. Some people may eat a lot after a breakup but studies have shown that most people lose their appetite.

You Will Feel Physical Pain

You will not only feel emotional pain after a breakup, but it is possible you can feel physical pain. Our brains can react to heartbreak the same way we react to being in physical pain. Getting over a break up can make you ill because of stress and in result can lower your immune system.

You Will Miss Your Ex

After a break up you will realize that things are just not the same anymore. You may have dreams about your ex or you may hear a song and it may remind you of your ex. There will be constant thoughts in your head about all of the time you spent with each other. You will also experience withdrawal symptoms because some people are addicted to being in love or in a relationship. Adjusting to not having a partner is one of the struggles you will face after a breakup.

You Lose Yourself

When you were dating your ex, it was all about the two of you. You become one with your partner and sometimes you can lose yourself. Heartbreak can cause to wonder “who am I?” or “what will I do with my life now?” Now you are at a point in your life where you are going to have to learn how to live for yourself and decide what you want to do with your life. Soul searching is necessary after a breakup because you can easily lose your identity.

These are somethings that can happen after a breakup. A broken heart can sometimes lead to some serious physical issues, so you have to make sure you take care of yourself.

Four Reasons Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About  Your Ex

I have given you five things on what happens after a breakup. Now you may be wondering why do I think about my ex. These are my four top reasons why you can’t stop thinking about your ex:

1) You Are Feeling Guilty

Sometimes you still think about your ex because you feel guilty about how they reacted to the breakup. You never wanted to hurt each other, but the relationship took a bad turn. I know when I broke up with my boyfriend I felt bad about how the relationship ended. It was a burden on my heart for a long time. Just knowing that his life got turned upside down because of a break up made it harder for me to stop thinking about him.

2) No Closure In The Relationship

Some breakups are worse than others. When you do not know the cause of the breakup or if it is your fault you will feel like you have no closure. That can really torment you mentally because you do not know the reason why you were left behind. Regardless if you broke up with a man or women, it would be hard to stop thinking about your ex if there was no closure.

3) Regret

Another reason why you can’t stop thinking about your ex is that you regret the things you said out of anger. You think about what you could have done or what you should have done. It was tough for me because I felt if I did this or that maybe the relationship would not have ended. Having regrets can make you feel depressed and wondering what if this happened or what if that happened. It will constantly make you think about your ex.

4) You Want Your Ex Back

One of the most obvious reasons why you are thinking about your ex is that you simply want them back. You realize that you made a mistake and you want another chance to do it all over again. Most people have these feelings because they also miss the times that they spent together. It will become harder and harder every day when you are not with your ex, so it is normal to wish that they would still be there.

It takes some time to move on from a breakup. You may have constant reminders of the relationship that you were in, and those memories can bring you down. Just remember that time heals all wounds and you will eventually move on. Take one day at a time and try to do things you enjoy. Bear in mind that your ex is also hurting from the relationship and it will take time for both of you to feel better. Love can be a beautiful thing, but it can also be heartbreaking. When you stop thinking about your ex, you will feel better physically, emotionally and mentally. So take it slow and start the process of moving on.