There is an old saying that effectively states that women constantly change their minds. This adage has survived through the years because it has a grain of truth in it.

Some women strongly feel that to be indecisive or change their minds as often as they please is their birthright.

What can you do if you are in a relationship with a girl who can’t make her mind up… about anything? We will give you some tips in this article.

Although these tips won’t work in every situation, there are some things you need to know if you find yourself with a wishy-washy female.

Men and women are simply different

This may seem like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised at the guys who haven’t figured this out yet. They attempt to talk to their girlfriend as they would to their man buddy. That isn’t going to work in the long run.

You need to discover your girl’s intention and decipher her language.

Women like to process everything through emotional analysis. It could be said jokingly, that they go back and forth, trying out each option like a pair of shoes.

If you want to speed up their decision-making process, just stay quiet. The more you say, the longer it may take. Don’t confuse or upset her with your ´ignorant´ rationality.

What to do when a woman can’t make up her mind

When a woman tells you the options she is considering, she doesn’t want your advice. She needs you to agree with her and she might not need you to fix anything or come up with ideas.

In most situations she just wants you to nod your head in agreement with everything she says. Honestly, you can keep watching the ballgame as long as you look in her direction once in a while and nod.

Patience is your best friend

There is something in a woman’s DNA that causes her to react badly if you try and pressure her into a decision. Whether she is trying to decide what to wear or if she wants to break up, do not demand a decision. This will not go well for you.

She may even start over at the beginning of the decision if you say the wrong thing. Women don’t like to be told what to do.

Don’t get annoyed

If you want a quick decision, do not ask her additional questions or rush her into making up her mind already. Don’t bring it up; don’t get exasperated and pick a fight. Just act as if you have forgotten all about it.

Of course, this may be challenging if you are driving and she can’t make up her mind where she wants to go, but be strong! Just keep turning left as she tries to decide which turn to take. She will wonder why you haven’t asked her more than once and this will shock her into a decision… maybe.

Use these types of situations to learn patience. This will prepare you for many years of wedded bliss as you celebrate many important decisions, she will put off. You will learn to drive slower, speak less, and nap with your eyes open as you wait for her to decide.

Give her space

If you find yourself in a situation where your girlfriend is pondering the future and whether you will be in hers give her space.

Women also like a little chase, so as she tries to decide what to do, you can have some buddy time. Once she sees that you aren’t pressuring her or stressing about it, she is likely to decide you aren’t so bad after all.

Find out where her head is in the relationship

There is a time when you should not pop the question, and that is before you lay the groundwork. If you are thinking of asking for a real commitment from your girlfriend, spend some time finding out where her head is in the relationship.

Have the two of you talked about a future? If you attempt to box her in about your future together, she is likely to come out swinging. The more you pressure her, the fewer decisions she will make and the whole mess will backfire on you.

Ask her open-ended questions

If you are trying to get your girl to make a decision about something ask her open-ended questions that she will have to elaborate to answer. This will give you an insight into what she is feeling and thinking. Sometimes, simple questions can clarify everything.

Don’t be too indecisive

Women are attracted to confident men. That’s a fact. The best way to turn a girl off is by being indecisive. This sounds like a double standard and it probably is, but girls want you to make decisions quickly and accurately.

Of course, she may not like your decision or give you ten reasons why it is a wrong decision, but secretly, she will admire your move.

No, this is not fair but as Dr. Phil says, “Do you want to be right…or happy?”

Ask her opinion on things

Check yourself to make sure you are giving your lady a fair chance to make decisions. Ask her opinion on things; it will lead to an hour-long conversation as she weighs the pros and cons. Don’t just talk to her but give her space to speak.

She needs to know that you can and will listen to what she has to say. It is important for her to know that you will at least consider her opinion on things. Whereas some girls will try to control your opinion, this isn’t always the case. Many women prefer a man with the guts to have his own opinion on things.

Be supportive

Are you supportive of her when she struggles to make decisions about things other than you? When she is for example struggling with a work problem, do you listen or browse your phone?

Again, women don’t want you to come up with an answer. They just want to be heard. Women like to say things out loud to process them. That is why a group of girls can sit and talk all night long. You don’t really see men doing that.

Learn from the coach

If all else fails… simply move on.

As hard as it is to admit sometimes, not all relationships are meant to be. If you have given it your best try and she is still undecided about your future, it is time to move on. While women do tend to change their minds often, they are not usually confused about their intimate feelings.

Don’t let yourself become a doormat. Some questions are answered by silence. If she has to consider and reconsider something as important as your relationship, that is not a good sign.

Wrapping up

Don’t be discouraged if it turns out that this girl wasn’t the right one for you. There truly are girls out there who can make decisions and know what and who they want. Just because you have a bad experience with a flip-flop girl doesn’t mean you can’t find happiness later.

So, as you can see, every girl is different, and you don’t want to stereotype them all as indecisive. What fun would it be, anyway, if men and women were so simple to define? The differences complement each other and let’s face it, they make your lives more interesting.

Perhaps the reason why women change their minds often is to add color to our wonderful relationships.

Just buckle in, enjoy the ride, and grow from your life experience!

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