Breakups are difficult and not many of us want to go through them again. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have no more feelings for your ex. Sometimes, it takes a breakup to realize that you love your ex more than you thought.

However, after a breakup, the lines of communication tend to fade away. Making a call is a confusing decision considering he or she may refuse to pick up your calls. The option of texting at this point sounds welcoming when looking to text your ex back.

4 Things you must do before you text your ex back

The following is advice on how to text your ex back and rekindle what you had together. This is good advice for both, man and women.

1. Avoid any hateful or rude texts

It does not make sense when you are constantly sending hate texts or rude texts to a person you really want back. Breakups can be difficult but once you have decided that you still want them back, the respect and charming self should be evident once again.

When you were angry, you probably said some nasty stuff but you can turn things around by being sweet and charming, however, do not go all in and start pouring out every bit of nice thing you have ever heard. It is important that you also monitor your ex’s reaction after a positive comment.

Your aim is to get him back but you need to make sure that they are warming up to the idea. If you have nothing positive to say, then it is best that you do not say anything at all. Work towards the positive and let go of the bad.

2. Avoid spamming them with text messages

You need to be charming and not behave like a stalker. You shouldn’t keep sending your ex text messages all day long. It is not only irritating, but you are also proving to her that you are a bother. This is especially directed towards men who think that sending messages constantly fulfills the idea that women love to be chased.

This is not the same thing. Keep in mind that when you appear to be needy, you are definitely becoming unattractive. Whether your text are declaring your love for your ex or have nothing to do with the topic in question, spamming your ex’s phone with texts will not win him or her back.

3. As you get started, keep it cool

Getting your ex back is a 50/50 ratio. Depending on how you proceed to text your ex, you may be able to increase your chances. On the other hand, if you do it badly, you will kill them completely and ruin your chances.

Do not be pushy and do not start to talk about any sensitive matters at the beginning. You are only trying to get both of you on the same page at this point.

Most importantly, do not review the issue that led to your breakup, not even when they were at fault.

4. Initially apply the 30-day no contact rule

It is recommended that you do not start to text your ex immediately after your breakup. After all, you are more likely going to face word lashing if you try. Apply the 30-day no-contact rule to give your ex some time to cool off and feel better.

Once they are at peace with themselves, you may start to send texts. You can simply try to find out how they are doing. After this is done, you can text your ex.

Once you send the first text, wait for a response. It may not exactly be what you were hoping for. In some circumstances, your ex may not reply to the first text. This is not a bad sign as it may mean you should give them more time. This stage helps you to test the waters as well as set the mood.

After testing the waters, their response will guide you on the pace and response you offer. A negative response only requires that you give them more time. Some people need more time to let go of the pain. Some will never let go. You also need to be able to face that.

Texting your ex to get them back

If you really want them back, you will allow them the time to heal. This is the time to be understanding and prove that you are the right person to be around. Just remember the rule on not becoming a bother by sending millions of text messages.

Follow the above guidelines and you will possibly get your ex back in your life. Remain concerned, and loving, exercise patience, give him the required time to cool off and relax and do not spam his phone with unnecessary text messages.

This may sound easy but it requires an individual who is patient and determined. The above applies to whether you want your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back.